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Monday, March 2, 2009
Jealousy.
Jealousy is a very strong word, or so I've learned from past experiences and the stories I've heard. A much stronger word compared to envy, jealousy often leads to hatred. Too much of the dose leads to poison. But if course a few doses are still considered healthy, I mean, seriously, who has not been jealous at somebody (or something!) at certain points in their lives? Not all jealousy leads to hatred. Poison only when it's overdosed.
Today, status is much more important than it used to be, people are competitive and you feel the pressure, when a friend shares a few details too much on how she manage to shed 5 kgs in 2 weeks, and you're still a size L no matter how much homework you did counting all the calories in every meal.
What adds vinegar to the lemon juice, is our heighten level of brand awareness. It may not bother you if your manager brings a new Prada purse to work. But if you're only 20 and your classmate flashes the 5 platinum and gold cards in her purse, hinting the new Gucci heels capable of elevating her 4 inches higher (from her actual height), jealousy hits.
It may not bother you at all if an acquaintance or someone older has something that you don't. But if it's someone of you own level, be it a friend or a colleague, it can be harder to take. You feel somewhat inferior, you feel you deserve the same amount of things. Jealousy hits.
Most of the time, jealousy seeps unknowingly from insecurity. I mean, the employee of the month won't be jealous of his colleague who just tapped down 5 sales in 1 go, would he? At least not for that particular month. Jealous because your boyfriend watched a movie with some female friend? You know you totally trust him. But somewhere at the back of your head, those few brain cells of yours just can't block out the ugly thoughts that says he might dump you for her. It sounded like a movie date to you, might be the first of the many dates to come. You were afraid you're no longer the one and only girl in his eyes, afraid that you're no longer your boyfriend's girlfriend. Jealousy hits. At times, jealousy doesn't come from not trusting the guy, it comes from not trusting yourself, you think that girl is somewhat prettier, smarter - better.
People tend to compare themselves with others, consciously or subconsciously. The results often trigger their self esteem. It also has a lot to do with what people actually want in life - satisfaction and goals in life.
What does a kid want? Or what does your kid want? A little girl can only be jealous of her friend who has a Barbie doll and she doesn't. But what if she likes to play with toy cars and trucks instead? She won't be jealous at all.
What does a teenage child want? Or what doesn't your teenage child want? Normally to fit in the groups among his peers. He has to smoke because everybody smokes, and he thinks being seen walking with his parents in a shopping mall makes him look like a momma's boy. What to be jealous about? The macho buffed guy who smokes and gets the girls' attention. He thinks he's cool he shops for his own clothes, not bought by mom.
What does a girlfriend want? Or what does your girlfriend want? Normally security and protection? Or she wants you to pay for all her meals, movies and expects flowers and presents every month?
What does a retired old man want? What does your dad want? Some are jealous at the neighbour, because his son didn't fail his subjects and graduated from a proper university. Some are jealous of the niece who just delivered a baby and their daughter is a 40 year old successful corporate businesswoman - who is still single. Some took out their EPF money for the son to study, and he never came back, and nobody wants to hire a 70 year old man with stroke.
It all bounces back to what makes you happy and what satisfies you. And we all know, in some cases, $100 k in a bank is never enough.
If i were to share my real life experience? Back in high school, there was this girl in class, bragging on her boyfriend. He bought her 2 cell phones. Always took the premiere class movie seats, never the normal seats. Paid for all the expensive crabs, muscles, prawns and squids. Bought her traveling to some countries, all expenses on him. And my boyfriend at that time? Doesn't really respect me, and even asked me to fetch him out and pay for his meal! I don't really like seafood, nor fancy being in premiere class seats. But was i jealous? Yes. Part of me wanted to just shut her up, but the other part says she didn't do anything wrong, it's not right to be mad. But obviously the jealous half was heavier. It didn't lead to hatred. I don't hate her. I just have to get over it. It wasn't because she was showered with expensive stuff. It was because I feel like I've been mistreated and that i deserve more than this. The problem was on my side, not on her side even if she likes to brag. I didn't get any of those listed above, when I was with my 4th boyfriend. Even when she bragged about the same few things, it doesn't bother me because I don't want premiere seats, I don't want to eat expensive foods, I don't want or need a new handphone. But I didnt feel mistreated. I was really content. Nothing else matters.
Real life experience number 2? I've always thought that the reason why my sister hates me, is because that she is jealous of me. And somehow I still think that way. Many years ago she once said this to me, "I don't even even get to go out when i was 14." I was 14, she was 17. Dad bought 2 watches, one for me and one for her. Fair enough? And she said "i don't even get a watch when i was 12". I was 12, she was 15. 2 years ago, I passed my driver's license, n sis got a job. Dad bought a new car so she drove the old car to work everyday, mom drove the new car. Fair enough? When mom's not using it, I drove out to college once in a while and sis said "when I passed my driver's license, all I get to drive is this old car. Why does SHE get to drive the new car to college?" What should I do as a younger sister? I really have no idea. For her to drive the new car to work everyday while mom drives the old car, and I drive when mom's not using the car?
Jealousy isn't really a familiar friend of mine. For all the jealousy I have once had on others, none of them had even a teeney bit of hatred in them. All was from insecurity. Some, from what i figured I should do to get even with her - my sister.
If you know there's lousy in jeaLOUSY, try... please try not to subject it to others. You can share private details with others, but tell people things based on their own situation. For example, if you wanna share the news of your boyfriend giving you the best birthday ever, share it with the one who has a boyfriend of many years, not the single ones who might get depressed over not being able to even nail a guy down, not to say have a birthday party thrown. Dying to tell someone about your promotion? Call up your uber-successful cousin. When someone feels secure about the subject matter, they won't be jealous.
Another tip, is to try and be humble, don't sound like a show off. Compliments work too. When you tell a friend (who you know can never afford it) about a pricey new dress, mention that she could borrow it from you for prom night, or how great it'll look on her.
Even the bestest friend can be jealous of each other. The movie Bride Wars proves it.
Today, status is much more important than it used to be, people are competitive and you feel the pressure, when a friend shares a few details too much on how she manage to shed 5 kgs in 2 weeks, and you're still a size L no matter how much homework you did counting all the calories in every meal.
What adds vinegar to the lemon juice, is our heighten level of brand awareness. It may not bother you if your manager brings a new Prada purse to work. But if you're only 20 and your classmate flashes the 5 platinum and gold cards in her purse, hinting the new Gucci heels capable of elevating her 4 inches higher (from her actual height), jealousy hits.
It may not bother you at all if an acquaintance or someone older has something that you don't. But if it's someone of you own level, be it a friend or a colleague, it can be harder to take. You feel somewhat inferior, you feel you deserve the same amount of things. Jealousy hits.
Most of the time, jealousy seeps unknowingly from insecurity. I mean, the employee of the month won't be jealous of his colleague who just tapped down 5 sales in 1 go, would he? At least not for that particular month. Jealous because your boyfriend watched a movie with some female friend? You know you totally trust him. But somewhere at the back of your head, those few brain cells of yours just can't block out the ugly thoughts that says he might dump you for her. It sounded like a movie date to you, might be the first of the many dates to come. You were afraid you're no longer the one and only girl in his eyes, afraid that you're no longer your boyfriend's girlfriend. Jealousy hits. At times, jealousy doesn't come from not trusting the guy, it comes from not trusting yourself, you think that girl is somewhat prettier, smarter - better.
People tend to compare themselves with others, consciously or subconsciously. The results often trigger their self esteem. It also has a lot to do with what people actually want in life - satisfaction and goals in life.
What does a kid want? Or what does your kid want? A little girl can only be jealous of her friend who has a Barbie doll and she doesn't. But what if she likes to play with toy cars and trucks instead? She won't be jealous at all.
What does a teenage child want? Or what doesn't your teenage child want? Normally to fit in the groups among his peers. He has to smoke because everybody smokes, and he thinks being seen walking with his parents in a shopping mall makes him look like a momma's boy. What to be jealous about? The macho buffed guy who smokes and gets the girls' attention. He thinks he's cool he shops for his own clothes, not bought by mom.
What does a girlfriend want? Or what does your girlfriend want? Normally security and protection? Or she wants you to pay for all her meals, movies and expects flowers and presents every month?
What does a retired old man want? What does your dad want? Some are jealous at the neighbour, because his son didn't fail his subjects and graduated from a proper university. Some are jealous of the niece who just delivered a baby and their daughter is a 40 year old successful corporate businesswoman - who is still single. Some took out their EPF money for the son to study, and he never came back, and nobody wants to hire a 70 year old man with stroke.
It all bounces back to what makes you happy and what satisfies you. And we all know, in some cases, $100 k in a bank is never enough.
If i were to share my real life experience? Back in high school, there was this girl in class, bragging on her boyfriend. He bought her 2 cell phones. Always took the premiere class movie seats, never the normal seats. Paid for all the expensive crabs, muscles, prawns and squids. Bought her traveling to some countries, all expenses on him. And my boyfriend at that time? Doesn't really respect me, and even asked me to fetch him out and pay for his meal! I don't really like seafood, nor fancy being in premiere class seats. But was i jealous? Yes. Part of me wanted to just shut her up, but the other part says she didn't do anything wrong, it's not right to be mad. But obviously the jealous half was heavier. It didn't lead to hatred. I don't hate her. I just have to get over it. It wasn't because she was showered with expensive stuff. It was because I feel like I've been mistreated and that i deserve more than this. The problem was on my side, not on her side even if she likes to brag. I didn't get any of those listed above, when I was with my 4th boyfriend. Even when she bragged about the same few things, it doesn't bother me because I don't want premiere seats, I don't want to eat expensive foods, I don't want or need a new handphone. But I didnt feel mistreated. I was really content. Nothing else matters.
Real life experience number 2? I've always thought that the reason why my sister hates me, is because that she is jealous of me. And somehow I still think that way. Many years ago she once said this to me, "I don't even even get to go out when i was 14." I was 14, she was 17. Dad bought 2 watches, one for me and one for her. Fair enough? And she said "i don't even get a watch when i was 12". I was 12, she was 15. 2 years ago, I passed my driver's license, n sis got a job. Dad bought a new car so she drove the old car to work everyday, mom drove the new car. Fair enough? When mom's not using it, I drove out to college once in a while and sis said "when I passed my driver's license, all I get to drive is this old car. Why does SHE get to drive the new car to college?" What should I do as a younger sister? I really have no idea. For her to drive the new car to work everyday while mom drives the old car, and I drive when mom's not using the car?
Jealousy isn't really a familiar friend of mine. For all the jealousy I have once had on others, none of them had even a teeney bit of hatred in them. All was from insecurity. Some, from what i figured I should do to get even with her - my sister.
If you know there's lousy in jeaLOUSY, try... please try not to subject it to others. You can share private details with others, but tell people things based on their own situation. For example, if you wanna share the news of your boyfriend giving you the best birthday ever, share it with the one who has a boyfriend of many years, not the single ones who might get depressed over not being able to even nail a guy down, not to say have a birthday party thrown. Dying to tell someone about your promotion? Call up your uber-successful cousin. When someone feels secure about the subject matter, they won't be jealous.
Another tip, is to try and be humble, don't sound like a show off. Compliments work too. When you tell a friend (who you know can never afford it) about a pricey new dress, mention that she could borrow it from you for prom night, or how great it'll look on her.
Even the bestest friend can be jealous of each other. The movie Bride Wars proves it.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Blood Donation
I read about this article recently on blood donation and i wanted to share. i do donate, in terms of money, at times. Time and effort? well I always wanted to. and i will. It's listed on my new year resolutions list. Anyway, if you're stingy like me, you can donate blood. It only takes a few minutes off your clock to save 3 lives!
though i know i don't fancy saving people. it is still for a good cause. not meaning it in a bad way but i prefer to save animals, the trees and the environment instead. mainly cause humans are the cause of the habitats and lives of animals. humans chop down trees to make books out of it. and if people use computers instead of books, the electricity used causes global warming which still, in a way contribute to global warming and the deaths of penguins, drowning in the north pole cause the ice melted. it's inevitable. that's why i think humans are selfish. before i go on with my blood donation post, i feel like listing out how selfish humans are. i fight for animal rights!! RAWR!
human selfishness list
1. Humans skin animals alive. FOR WHAT? for their fur. try imagining people skinning you to make bags out of human skin.
2. Fashion. leather. fur. animal teeth, claws and tusks.
3. Animal abuse. Humans torture animals just for fun. I've seen it with my own eyes, people throwing bottles rocks and rubbish at stray dogs. FOR WHAT? hey stray dogs are dogs too ok? and dogs are living creatures too ok? they will be put to sleep if they're caught by the dog catchers. better off being stray than dead. not every dog gets to live the life of Tinkerbell the Paris Hilton chihuahua, who wears clothes, chains and necklaces 10 times more expensive than what i have on me now.
some throw things at dogs, injuring them just cause they are afraid of dogs. they didint want the dog to go near them. but if you dont do anything to a dog, there's no reason for a dog to bite you. you dont really look like dinner to dogs. and if you throw something at a dog, the dog will attack, just to defend itself.
4. Humans make animals do stuff just for their own entertainment. have you seen people knocking at the aquarium glass with snakes/hamsters/parrots inside, just to see them move? im sure you have. it's already bad enough that they are caged, the last thing they want is people knocking on their cage, disturbing them, insisting that they move around in their cage. FOR WHAT? everybody knows that snake inside is alive. if its dead and not moving, it wont be in a pet shop okay? it moved. it moved! so what? you tug on your dad's shirt and ask him to look at the snake again, and the snake just doesnt seem to move, you knock on the glass to scare it and make it move. pathetic. humans are pathetic! i know you cant stand the urge of knocking on the glass. but please. think before you do something like that. imagine you in that glass with hundreds of people knocking at your glass everyday. totally annoying.
and dont get me started on circuses. it's very brilliant that monkeys can juggle balls, lions can allow you to put your head in its mouth for a few minutes doesnt mean the lion is not capable of eating your head off. the lion just doesnt want to. if you say the lion is scared of the whip, well if the lion pounces at you, eating you and the 10 audiences who got expensive front row seats before having somebody to shoot a tranquilizer at it, i'd blame the humans for it. cant the lion live happily in the jungle chasing after rabbits?
Did you know heavy metal concerts in the western countries fuck a pig and kill it in front of concerts? that's basically rape murder! who finds it entertaining? sick bastards.
5. Helium balloons. do you know how many turtles died at sea mistakenly took balloons as food. and there was one year the Malaysia government said we couldn't have fire crackers on new year's eve. instead we could let out helium balloons. FOR WHAT? ish...
6. Food. lets not talk about us being meat eaters, just yet. chickens and all are bred in quantity to met the demand for eggs and chicken. in other words, they are born to live in cages, with no exercise whatsoever so they can get fat and be sold and made into chicken pies etc.
Sharks fin and bird's nest. do you know how they got them? sharks starve n suffocated to death under water cause they can no longer swim without their fins. birds get thirsty. haha! ok that's not right. they lost their home. no matter how high up they build their nests in caves, people can climb all the way up to get them.
people eat rabbits, dogs, pigeons, n other really cute creatures. ok fine chickens are cute too but why are people still eating endangered species? ==(
plus, the story i heard from Jo Ann on how soft shell crabs are made, is just another example of human cruelty. i googled it up and i couldnt find it but it sounded cruel nonetheless.
7. Medicine and beauty products. Humans use rats and other animals to have their products tested to make sure there are no side effects. and if there are, then the animal dies or lives in torture .do you know how many products are under P&G? >>click<< we should boycott these brands and other factories that pollute the environment. not Starbucks just cause the US declares war against Muslim countries.
i came up with the animal cruelty list above. so i guess if there are more on animal cruelty, its just that i missed out some, or that i didn't know more stuff on how cruel humans are. humans kept talking about saving people saving lives, what about the animals? who to save them? i wish i could work for national geographic or something. me wuv animals! you have no idea how cute animals are. i even think crocodiles are cute. i don't hate them cause they are flesh eaters who eat people. they are carnivores! you're made out of meat and they have a smaller brain than you. how can you blame them for eating you up? you're smarter so its your own fault for being stupid enough to get near them. Steve Irwin is so stupid to be huggin crocodiles, filming them and thinking its so cool and brave to hug crocodiles and tying their mouths up. imagine you're that crocodile. you'll be thinkin "what the hell is wrong with that guy".
my dog always give me that look on her face when i hug her. its really nice to hug my dog but she always give me that face "erm... hey...what are you doing?" hahahah..
oh no i've gone too far. this should be a short post on blood donation. to try and encourage whoever that's reading this, to go donate blood. proves i talk alot. oh well, as long as i dont annoy people, im chatty but not a chatterbox.
though i know i don't fancy saving people. it is still for a good cause. not meaning it in a bad way but i prefer to save animals, the trees and the environment instead. mainly cause humans are the cause of the habitats and lives of animals. humans chop down trees to make books out of it. and if people use computers instead of books, the electricity used causes global warming which still, in a way contribute to global warming and the deaths of penguins, drowning in the north pole cause the ice melted. it's inevitable. that's why i think humans are selfish. before i go on with my blood donation post, i feel like listing out how selfish humans are. i fight for animal rights!! RAWR!
human selfishness list
1. Humans skin animals alive. FOR WHAT? for their fur. try imagining people skinning you to make bags out of human skin.
2. Fashion. leather. fur. animal teeth, claws and tusks.
3. Animal abuse. Humans torture animals just for fun. I've seen it with my own eyes, people throwing bottles rocks and rubbish at stray dogs. FOR WHAT? hey stray dogs are dogs too ok? and dogs are living creatures too ok? they will be put to sleep if they're caught by the dog catchers. better off being stray than dead. not every dog gets to live the life of Tinkerbell the Paris Hilton chihuahua, who wears clothes, chains and necklaces 10 times more expensive than what i have on me now.
some throw things at dogs, injuring them just cause they are afraid of dogs. they didint want the dog to go near them. but if you dont do anything to a dog, there's no reason for a dog to bite you. you dont really look like dinner to dogs. and if you throw something at a dog, the dog will attack, just to defend itself.
4. Humans make animals do stuff just for their own entertainment. have you seen people knocking at the aquarium glass with snakes/hamsters/parrots inside, just to see them move? im sure you have. it's already bad enough that they are caged, the last thing they want is people knocking on their cage, disturbing them, insisting that they move around in their cage. FOR WHAT? everybody knows that snake inside is alive. if its dead and not moving, it wont be in a pet shop okay? it moved. it moved! so what? you tug on your dad's shirt and ask him to look at the snake again, and the snake just doesnt seem to move, you knock on the glass to scare it and make it move. pathetic. humans are pathetic! i know you cant stand the urge of knocking on the glass. but please. think before you do something like that. imagine you in that glass with hundreds of people knocking at your glass everyday. totally annoying.
and dont get me started on circuses. it's very brilliant that monkeys can juggle balls, lions can allow you to put your head in its mouth for a few minutes doesnt mean the lion is not capable of eating your head off. the lion just doesnt want to. if you say the lion is scared of the whip, well if the lion pounces at you, eating you and the 10 audiences who got expensive front row seats before having somebody to shoot a tranquilizer at it, i'd blame the humans for it. cant the lion live happily in the jungle chasing after rabbits?
Did you know heavy metal concerts in the western countries fuck a pig and kill it in front of concerts? that's basically rape murder! who finds it entertaining? sick bastards.
5. Helium balloons. do you know how many turtles died at sea mistakenly took balloons as food. and there was one year the Malaysia government said we couldn't have fire crackers on new year's eve. instead we could let out helium balloons. FOR WHAT? ish...
6. Food. lets not talk about us being meat eaters, just yet. chickens and all are bred in quantity to met the demand for eggs and chicken. in other words, they are born to live in cages, with no exercise whatsoever so they can get fat and be sold and made into chicken pies etc.
Sharks fin and bird's nest. do you know how they got them? sharks starve n suffocated to death under water cause they can no longer swim without their fins. birds get thirsty. haha! ok that's not right. they lost their home. no matter how high up they build their nests in caves, people can climb all the way up to get them.
people eat rabbits, dogs, pigeons, n other really cute creatures. ok fine chickens are cute too but why are people still eating endangered species? ==(
plus, the story i heard from Jo Ann on how soft shell crabs are made, is just another example of human cruelty. i googled it up and i couldnt find it but it sounded cruel nonetheless.
7. Medicine and beauty products. Humans use rats and other animals to have their products tested to make sure there are no side effects. and if there are, then the animal dies or lives in torture .do you know how many products are under P&G? >>click<< we should boycott these brands and other factories that pollute the environment. not Starbucks just cause the US declares war against Muslim countries.
i came up with the animal cruelty list above. so i guess if there are more on animal cruelty, its just that i missed out some, or that i didn't know more stuff on how cruel humans are. humans kept talking about saving people saving lives, what about the animals? who to save them? i wish i could work for national geographic or something. me wuv animals! you have no idea how cute animals are. i even think crocodiles are cute. i don't hate them cause they are flesh eaters who eat people. they are carnivores! you're made out of meat and they have a smaller brain than you. how can you blame them for eating you up? you're smarter so its your own fault for being stupid enough to get near them. Steve Irwin is so stupid to be huggin crocodiles, filming them and thinking its so cool and brave to hug crocodiles and tying their mouths up. imagine you're that crocodile. you'll be thinkin "what the hell is wrong with that guy".
my dog always give me that look on her face when i hug her. its really nice to hug my dog but she always give me that face "erm... hey...what are you doing?" hahahah..
oh no i've gone too far. this should be a short post on blood donation. to try and encourage whoever that's reading this, to go donate blood. proves i talk alot. oh well, as long as i dont annoy people, im chatty but not a chatterbox.
FACTS
- Every 3 seconds, someone needs a blood transfusion.
- After donation, your body fluid will be replaced in hours, and your red blood cells will be replaced in about 4 weeks. loss of iron will be restored in about 8 weeks.
BENEFITS OF HAVING YOUR BLOOD DONATED
- Removes excess iron from your body.
- Lowers the risk of heart disease for men.
- Maintains the healthiness of the body's circulatory system.
DONORS' ELIGIBILITY
- Must be between 18 - 60 years old.
- Must be heavier than 45 kg.
- Must be free from any medical illnesses.
- Should not have consumed antibiotics in a week prior to donation.
- Not pregnant or have delivered recently.
- Not involved in multi partner sex relationships or drugs.
i would have donated if I dont have high cholesterol, if im not on cholesterol drug medication, if i wont faint losing just 1 small tube of blood for blood test. n if im fat-er. hahaha! so donate your blood! its what stingy people do. hahaha! and after that, do something good for animals. and the environment. use a green bag! its wat i always do.
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